Sometimes I think I wished the last (nearly) 6 years away. Six years ago my daughter was nearly 2 and I had a baby boy on the way. My little boy will be the death of me (but that's another blog post) but since he started school this year, gee I've missed him. I've missed hanging out with him during the day and its made me realise how I wished I could've hung on to those little years a little bit longer. So here's my top 5 list for hanging on to those younger years just a wee bit longer.
1. Never begrudge a trip to the park
We're really spoilt for choice of parks where I live and have a great park just around the corner. The playground equipment is just right for toddlers and I took both of the kids there often. Some days I rathered just stay home and let them run around the back yard but whether it was a reward or a promise to the park, I begrudgingly set off. They thoroughly enjoyed it, playing in the sand, on the swings, being pushed, enjoying that one on one time with me, looking at nature. Now they have homework and enjoy doing their own thing, the local park doesn't hold as much appeal for them anymore. I'd happily take them back just to see their enthusiasm. (They still enjoy the park but they're off doing their own thing.)
2. Let them have a go on the shopping mall rides
Nothing would irritate me more than trying to get the shopping done, with a toddler in tow and them wanting to stop on the shopping mall rides. You know the ones? The Spiderman motorbike or Bob the Builder digger. I hated parting with the ridiculous amount of $2 for the 3 minute ride but thinking back, oh what joy did it bring to my kids. Their little faces just lit up as that ride moved ever so slightly, backward and forward. I walk around the shopping centre now and see the little kids screaming as their Mums walk past, in a hurry. I feel like giving them the $2 just to see their faces light up. My kids never even worry about those rides now. It doesn't last long. Enjoy the moment.
3. A little bit of 'educational' TV won't do them any harm
As my kids have grown older, their tastes have changed and they've become fans of Barbie or Battleforce 5, Lego Ninjago and heaven knows what else. Long gone are the days of counting programs, tv programs that sang pretty little songs about rhyming or doing things with your Mum like "the people on the bus go up and down, up and down..." etc etc. How I miss that. I used to sit with the kids and do all the actions, dancing with them and saying the rhymes. Now I can't keep up with the latest craze or what the latest Lego program is.
| Book week costume 2010 - "a winter fairy welcoming spring" |
4. If they want the same story read over and over again, read it
My daughter used to want us to read the most boring, irritating book in the world to her. It was a book about numbers and counting and 'tin tans' (whatever they are) and it used to drive us crazy. I think we read it every night (sometimes a couple times) for about 3 years. She still has it and we make a bit of a joke about it. Her maths and spelling abilities are outstanding. I'm not saying it's all because of this book but it was a book she enjoyed and it obviously taught her something. (The same could be said about her dinosaur books as well.)
| Note the sand and leaves on the easel. I've had enough sand in my house & everywhere else to make about 10 sandpits! |
5. Let them get messy
Nothing pleases me more then my children being creative whether its with craft or general play. They've always been allowed to play in the mud or with playdough or whatever else it was that took their fancy. (I'm sure my son had the odd go with dog poo as well.) It gave them a great love of play which is still evident today. Dirt, paint, mud or cooking ingredients can always be washed out or cleaned up (well, nearly always). What's a few paint stains on old clothes? Both of my children have great imaginations and create a game out of any thing without having the toys or proper equipment to do it. They may not need as much supervision as they did when they were toddlers but they still get messy. Nothing that a good wash won't fix.
So there you have it. I know I have the benefit of hindsight and me, more than anyone, really struggled through those toddler years sometimes but I lived minute by minute, not planning much and really letting the housework go by the wayside. But I feel confident in knowing that my kids had great times when they were toddlers. I think this is what they call "I want another child" gene. Stop me now!


Oh my goodness! They are so adorable! You are making me sad that they are growing up so fast!
ReplyDeleteOh...those pictures warm my heart. Good advice I should take, by the way, instead of worrying about all this unpacking and decorating perhaps I should just take a trip to the park.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful reflective post Anne.
ReplyDeleteI'm in the thick of the earl years now, and looking to add to the brood again. But I do understand the whole wishing time away thing. I'm very cautious about that after losing the twins. It's one of the big blessings that has come from a heart breaking tradegy.
Your pics and words show a wonderful story and I'm show your kids will grow up having sweet little snippets in their cellular memory of the things you do with and for them.
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DeleteLoved this post Anne, and those pictures are so sweet. I'm one of those Mums dragging her whingy toddler past the shopping mall rides :( They always seem to appear at the worst possible times! But next time I see one, I'm sure your words will pop in my head and I'll make time to stop!
ReplyDeleteLoved this post Anne, and those pictures are so sweet. I'm one of those Mums dragging her whingy toddler past the shopping mall rides :( They always seem to appear at the worst possible times! But next time I see one, I'm sure your words will pop in my head and I'll make time to stop!
ReplyDeleteIt was such a pleasure to read your post today. I worked for over 30 years in a library with young (babies, toddlers, and preschoolers)children. Your advice was spot on. I discovered your blog by looking at the favorites of another blogger, and am so happy I did. You are now on my favorites list, and I check it every day.
ReplyDeleteLove it Anne. Impossible to get those years back and they go way too fast.
ReplyDeleteStop & smell the playdough.
x Marnie
Thanks for the reminder. I have a nearly 2 year old who can be very hectic, but I do love my time with him and know I too will miss it in years to come. Toddler really are the most precious, curious, loving, messy but fun creatures :)
ReplyDeleteI love this! Great perspective, sometimes in the midst of it the cost or annoyance wins but to the kids those things build memories
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this is an awesome post, I read every point going yup couldn't agree more. I'm gonna share this on Kids Co-op FB page (but I'll wait til this evening because I have just splurged the page with a few other posts).
ReplyDeleteI hope you do write a post on why your son "will be the death of you" - sounds like one I'd love to read, having a hyper 2 year old boy myself.
Great post Anne :)
ReplyDeleteI have a 2 year old daughter and it took us 8 years and a tragedy to get her!
ReplyDeleteI found myself wishing she'd grow up a few weeks ago (it was a bad day for both of us). Then I was sorting through some stuff out of the cupboard we were planning on moving that night and found pictures of her from just a few months ago. I hardly recognized her.
I went in to watch her sleep and sat there crying.
If I wasn't careful, I could miss that critical moment when she turns into a child instead of my sweet, CRAZY little toddler!!!
After all, I had somehow missed the one where my tiny baby became a toddler!
BTW - With 5 large dogs...I KNOW our daughter's had "the odd go with dog poo"!!! LOL I keep wipes on the back porch now!
ReplyDeleteBTW - With 5 large dogs...I KNOW our daughter's had "the odd go with dog poo"!!! LOL I keep wipes on the back porch now!
ReplyDeleteBTW - With 5 large dogs...I KNOW our daughter's had "the odd go with dog poo"!!! LOL I keep wipes on the back porch now!
ReplyDeleteYou are so right! My three oldest are too old for many of these activities, and I really miss those years even though when I was in the midst of it, life seemed so crazy. Thankfully, while they are at school, I have my two-year-old daughter at home, and this go-around, I'm doing all this and relishing every minute of it. Thanks for the reminder of just how fast our kids grow up!
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Gorgeous photos! Great tips. And a great reminder of how much to enjoy these toddler years. I remember being impressed when at 18 months my son pointed to the coin-slot of a mall car and said 'money'!
ReplyDeleteIt's perfect for me to read this now, in the thick of it, and see that I am doing most of those things. I must say I am not a park fan, but I know in another few months I won't have to hover quite so close to the 19 month old.
ReplyDeleteI have always allowed my kids to have a ride on those shopping centre rides. Firstly, Miss A was just happy sitting on one. I got away with not putting any money in for a good while. Now with two of them, it's great value for money. I have rarely had a tanty getting them off, we say goodbye, see you next time and keep going. I have said to J that I wish they went for longer - just enough time to enjoy a cup of coffee. That would be priceless. xx
Just pinned this. Those rides at the mall are the highlights of my kids' day. Why they would think it was fun to go on a ride that moves 6 inches I have no idea. But I always save my change for our mall trips.
ReplyDeleteThat is great advice Anne. Particularly after the morning my little man has given me!
ReplyDeleteSometimes when you are in the "thick of it", parenting that is, it is hard to remember that each stage comes and goes. Thanks for the reminder to savour it!
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