|Mum aged about 3|
Today you would've turned 81 years of age.
I still can't get used to the fact that you're not here anymore.
I feel like you're away on one of your 'trips' and will be back soon.
I've got so much to tell you.
I've been waiting for that phone call you make this time every year asking "what are we doing for Christmas?" and it hasn't come.
I miss you. The kids miss you. The dogs miss you. Your neighbours, friends and family miss you.
How does one go on with life when the person who gave you life and was always their 'soft place to fall' isn't here anymore?
|Mum in her late teens|
I'm doing okay I guess. If I didn't have the kids I think I'd be a little lost and have more time to think about you. They certainly keep me busy.
I just can't believe my whole way of life has changed. I don't know how to create a new life without you in it. Its made me grow up, finally. With no parents alive anymore, I'm it. I'm the eldest. I'm the backstop. I'm lucky I've still got two sisters, an aunt and and uncle to still lean on. But I know you're still with me in spirit. I've received all those 'messages' of wisdom you've been sending me. You always make everything so clear.
|Mum with a cousin in her late teens|
I'll never get over you not being here but I hope you'll stick around and guide me through my tough times. I'm so grateful that you did share your wisdom with me while you were here on earth. I wouldn't be where I am today without it.
So, in true style, I'll celebrate your birthday today as we usually did, with a cup of coffee and a piece of cake somewhere and I'll remember you. Happy birthday!